Well its 12:50 at night, and I am catching some me time. I did have some me time after supper for about an hour when I send tatty out shopping with the kids.
This morning I went with a friend to a shiur, I have mentioned her before her son and Mendele are good friends, so me, Mendele and Eidele as, well as her and her two kids went. It turned out to be about parenting, and it was very interesting, and it was a very relaxed atmosphere. All the women had kids with so when Mendele and Eidele caused their share of interruptions, it was fine.
Everyone shared thoughts on the subject and it was nice to meet new people and be at an actual shiur. Before we left the hostess said to me that I seemed like such an attached mother, it was a compliment and she said it very sincerely. It was nice to hear!
Two weeks ago I went to the doctor. It was important that my husband was there because the outcome of the conversation would affect him to. We had to bring the kids because we dont have anyone who can watch them. Both me and my husband wanted to pay full attention to the conversation because it was pretty serious and I wanted to make sure that we discussed all aspects and covered all the details. As a result we let Mendele play with some toys in the room which he didnt do quietly shall we say. He also stepped up on the scale, and touched some equipment. When he touched somethings that seemed to be inappropriate for him to touch, i told him and he touched other things all the time not being very quiet. Teh doctor didnt say anything and I kept looking at her to try and see if he was ok and at one point my husband took him out of the room. She didnt have any age appropriate toys, she had 2 toys which were both meant for older babies. Both my husband and I knew that he wasnt on his best behaviour but I thought that given the cirumstances, the nature of our conversation it was understandable that he wasnt.
I had to go in this monday and after the actual matter I came to see her for, I had to sit down for a few minutes, and we made "small talk" she asked about different things and at some point I told her that I was very focused on my kids at the moment because Eidele wants to be held, fed, played with and held some more all day and Mendele wants to be a baby again. She then said that she noticed that he had boundary issues last time we were here, that we hadnt told him of when he wrecked her office, which he in all honesty hadnt done, he had touched the scales and tried to touch the bloodpressure tester, and made noise. I told her that I had infact told him of and she replied that he hadnt listened.
I dont feel like I cant control him and I am very happy with the level of control I have. He is not an easy kid, and when we are in places like a waiting room or a doctors office he gets very bored and very disruptive. I have to remember to bring toys and foods to occupy him next time we go because I was actually really upset.
The thing I had to get done at the doctors was extremely painful, on a scale I would measure it to the pain of contractions, and I almost fainted when it was over(thats why I had to sit), but the only thing I could talk about when dh picked me up was what she had said.
Anyways, this afternoon we had soccer again and it went much better. He took instructions really well and really loved it! There were 5 kids altogether and it was a very nice group. Mendeles friend was there as well with his father and the both kids had a lot of fun.
Tomorrow we have another playgroup and we are going to see a friend with a little girl who Mendele playes well with, I also have to find time to cook for shabbos and clearly have some me time ;-)